Is the world truly full of liars?

“Everybody lies.”

I hear and read this statement frequently. There is truth to this statement about lying, but I don’t think it is absolutely true. I do believe the majority of people tell intentional lies sometimes- and that some people tell lies very frequently (and not all of them are even politicians!) – but I also am certain people exist who cognitively are either not capable of intentional dishonesty, or else have extreme difficulty being that way. I have difficulty committing outright intentional deception. I can do it- mostly when I feel threatened in some way- but usually I have to tell myself I’m playing a character or a game or something. I also find it difficult to think that a “white lie” is so completely different from other lies. I know it’s meant to be different, yes. But not the same way the general public just seems to automatically get it. (And what exactly is “white” about it anyway?)

Here’s a thing I feel is true about lies:

I believe intent must be present for a lie to be told.

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Here’s a Cat Photo!

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This is a picture of an orange tabby cat, sitting on a fuzzy green blanket. His name is Lawrence. Because it sort of rhymes with orange. He is wonderful, and he loves sitting on fuzzy blankets. And pillows, and my lap too. He is a very good, sweet cat even though he was feral for a long time before he decided to move in the house.

It’s a dreary rainy day and the sky is really gray.

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A poem and a photo.
Both very mediocre.

Hi there.

It’s a picture of my back yard. The trees look good, but the sky is definitely gray.

Really the reason I made this post was to see if I could take a pic and make a post with a tablet. And, in case you can’t tell from this picture, it’s not a very fancy tablet! But it was refurbished and a good deal.

Partial review of Bitten, by Kelley Armstrong –Part Two–

Note: This isn’t meant to be a takedown or roast or what have you, just because I didn’t finish the book. I don’t want to give that impression.
It’s just generally what I thought, with a few issues/problems I had.

(And this has content/trigger warnings for literary mentions of sexism, assault, etc.)

And stating that anything disturbed or triggered me is not meant to say that it kept me up all night or gave me nightmares. It just made me more uncomfortable than I wanted to be at that specific time, given my general stress level, etc.

I also forgot to mention on the first part, that, in addition to the concerns I mentioned there, the way werewolf society works, and the way it views women is very disturbing. I know there are places on this planet where women in real life are not valued, but the way it’s depicted for werewolves is as bad or worse. I’ve read other books where werewolf society isn’t positive for women, but so far this sounds unusually bad.

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Oops.

I realized that I had started writing the second part of a post but forgot to finish and post it…

Yeah, I do that kind of thing.

I’m getting back on it right now.

The past; today: Sexuality, how it was and is. Just a few thoughts.

This isn’t a deep analysis.

It’s just thoughts.

Hopefully that’s OK with folks. If it’s not OK, oh well.

I might write a big major analysis someday, but this is not that day!

Thanks.

 

No matter how open minded a person is, they probably know that some in the general public still speak of sexuality in terms of “normal” and “deviant”.  And I’m not even talking about kink or anything, but just people still calling heterosexuality the norm and anything else not normal.

Well, back in the 80’s and early 90’s, (and definitely before) that was pretty much the only socially acceptable way to speak of sexuality. It wasn’t a way that only folks who are against “all that PC stuff” would refer to it. It was how you would presume, without prior evidence to the contrary, that all your friends, coworkers, fellow students etc thought of it. Even at an art school which is known to have a lot of liberal thinkers. Yes, a sizable amount of folks in that setting made it vocally clear they were what “polite” society termed deviant. But still others did not. If you thought differently, you usually felt very nervous bringing it up for the first time with anyone not in that “out and proud” group.

It is still often assumed that anyone defending the rights of the lgbtq group must belong to it. Like, why would anyone else care? (Like, why be human?)

There are people one can feel safe talking about gay or straight monosexuality with, but nervous bringing up bisexuality, pansexuality or asexuality, and totally won’t feel safe mentioning any trans issues to.

We still have plenty of folks who think they know what your sexuality should be based on your looks.

And some of them act like it’s a crime against humanity for a good looking person to be asexual.

What we would now call gray-asexual (I think. I’m still learning terms myself.) would perhaps have been termed as “low libido” and thus something that needed fixing.

So I guess I am saying for now that some things have changed, but a lot could still use improvement.

And, that’s all the thoughts I can articulate at the moment.

More some other time.